I was talking with a good friend of mine the other day, and she used the term “keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.” This friend of mine is a strong woman, and works hard at her career and her reputation so when she says something like this, she has my attention.
Her statement got me thinking about how I could relate this to my own personal journey. As I mentioned in my last post, I am currently reading The Desire Map, which has me thinking more than ever about feeling the way I want to feel.
And as you know, I am also an HSP, so I think very deeply and complexly about things and I am forever formulating different scenarios and ideas in my mind. This is my attempt to share some of them with you. Let’s have fun with it!
Ok, so bear with me and note this quote again: “keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.”
Now let’s look inward. Let’s flip our perspective away from the people in our lives and look at our relationship with ourselves.
Let’s say that the term “friends” represent your truth, your happiness, and the parts of yourself that you can trust and that make you feel AWESOME. Does this mean that the term “enemies” could represent your doubts, your fears… and all those parts of yourself that you believe have the power to harm you?
I’m going to go with yes! (for the sake of the metaphor I am creating here). 😉
So why do we keep our friends close? We keep them close because they bring out the best in us, we enjoy life with them and have fun… we can rely on them and trust them, they add to us, fill us up. I think that’s why we want to live our truth as well, right? Because living our truth adds to our lives.
Now… why does this quote tell us to keep our enemies closer?! Responses will probably vary, but I think the purpose is to know our enemies so we can and understand them better, so we can be aware of what threats they might pose to us – so we can keep an eye on them, and be ready for them when they come. This gives us a better chance at outsmarting them.
I think this is precisely why we should know our own demons, and develop a relationship with our own fear.
Friends = Truth, Enemies = Fear
So, I say all the more reason to get closer… to both.
Maybe the harder of the two is getting to know your fears – but do – because sometimes your fears are what is stopping you from realizing your biggest truth. So I challenge you to get to know them; don’t cower away from the fear inside you. Explore it. And going into that, remember that you have control of how you want to feel. Always remember the light inside of you. But I urge you to be curious! What is that fear really about? It’s most likely there from memories and experiences in your past. But remember that today, those fears only have the control that you give them.
I am going to change the statement “Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer” to “Keep your fears close, and your truth closer.” Live in your truth, but don’t ignore the fear, it is also a teacher, your asset. Get to know fear so well that it no longer threatens, because you can see through it to the other side.
Thanks for reading this week. Presenting this metaphor was a great challenge for me, and I hope that it made some sense to you! As always, feel free to reach out to me in a private message or in a comment to continue this conversation. Truth? Fear? You’ll get the most out of life when you know them both within you. ❤
Xo your fellow HSP, Chelsie