Get a grip, and it let go

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Society tells us to chase after the things we want – to push for them and work towards them: “Set a goal, achieve it, next.” And gods forbid we fail… because that can come down on our self esteem like a ton of bricks.

Have you ever become so obsessed with a goal that it takes over your life, and you can’t get it out of your head? Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try for something it seems to slip farther and farther away? This is sign that sure, you are in a goal oriented head space as in… you’ll do anything for that…thing, you’ll KILL for it, but you’re probably not in the right what I call “heart space”.

If you’ve been chasing after something with your head in the driver’s seat and your heart locked in the back trunk, it might be time to step on the breaks.

Remember this quote? “If you love something, set it free, if it comes back, it’s meant to be…”

Get out of your head about that thing that you want, and go into your heart. Listen to it, what does your intuition say?

There is a very delicate balance to be had between actioning your goals, and setting intentions freely, letting them go so they can flow and grow organically.

This is  tough to do, and I have to consciously remind myself to do this daily, because I know that in the past when I have chased goals and got all caught up in my head about them (us HSPs can certainly slip into that mind trap of over thinking), my world gets crazy and out of balance and I tend to lose myself in the pursuit. I lose sight of what really matters. I find that I am unhappy, and even after getting what I wanted, I am still not satisfied.

When I chase goals with my heart, I am relaxed and content. I am open to the universe and I don’t miss anything that the tunnel vision of my mind might have blinded me from. I am also more ok with my path bending in ways that I did not plan for.

It is easy to loose touch with our heart space because the mind tends to over power, so we need to actively check in with ourselves when our head starts running and trying to control things.

So what I am saying is yes, you need to do the peddling and work towards what you want, but your heart should be doing the steering.

I challenge you to get a grip of your heart, and let go of your mind…. You’ll know what to do.

Thanks for reading my blog post this week! I have so much more in store for you on www.thesensitivetrait.com, and I deeply appreciate all of my followers and viewer’s support.

Until next time,

XOXO your fellow HSP, Chelsie

A Reflection on 2015

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My Dearest HSPs and HSP Supporters,

I would like to share with you some of my reflections on 2015. Thank you for your interest and support in The Sensitive Trait, I hope it touches all of you in some way, and I look forward to what 2016 will bring for us all.

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I have immense gratitude for the wonderful people I have met, reconnected with and shared with on this ever growing, ever changing adventure.

During 2015 I have become more familiar with fear; I am learning to face it and to respect it, to free myself of its grasp, each time being a new challenge. I have learned to let go and through that, I have been jealous less and have loved more.

I am more aware of positive and negative energy than ever before. I have learned to create intentions but also to set them free, abstaining from using a forcing hand to make things happen when they are not meant to be.

Thank you to the teachers, the supporters and the unconditional lovers in my life; especially my fellow HSPs, my friends, my father and my wonderful life partner – my relationships with you have significantly grown and evolved over the course of 2015.

Happy new year to each and every one of you – may you live from the inside out and continue to be true to yourself, living the life that is meant for you, even if it doesn’t all make sense in the moment.

Trust what is.

~ Sending more love and blessings than my heart can contain for 2016. ~

I am open to all that it will bring, including more challenges and more opportunities for growth.

Xoxo your fellow HSP, Chelsie.

HSPs and Decision Making

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I was recently on a business trip to represent the marketing & communications work I do for a corporate company. As a fairly experienced HSP with regards to work trips and travel, I knew I would be in for a whirlwind of busy airports, short flight connections, back-to-back schedules, non-stop interaction, lobby bars, constant hotel air-conditioning and very little sleep.

For most HSPs, I can guarantee this doesn’t sound like a fun agenda if there are no breaks in between.

In my position, luckily these trips are usually only three or four days long so I can charge up before, and power through with brief breaks in my hotel room literally self-loving myself with words like:

“You got this, you can do it… PROUD-A-YOU!”

And then recover afterwards with sleep and honestly pure quiet time alone in my house doing absolutely nothing.

I do wish there was something more that I could recommend to do during busy jam-packed events like this, but I honestly think the best thing to do is to give yourself reassurance, and if you absolutely need time out, perhaps miss a scheduled dinner or an evening event.

Lucky for HSPs, although we burn out quicker due to overstimulation and lack of downtime, we are extremely resilient in brief periods of high demand.

What I wanted to talk about today is something I have noticed in myself as an HSP in the past; and something that really came to the forefront of my mind again during my company’s large group discussions and meetings.

The process of decision making…

For an HSP this probably means: deciding on how we feel about a topic, gathering what our own introspects are, depicting what other sides of the story or point of view could be, considering the outcomes, and about 500 other analytical thoughts that run through our minds… including whether or not we should pipe up about our insights during a group discussion.

Last week I couldn’t help but think:

“Man, it seems so easy for the guy sitting 3 chairs down from me to blurt out his opinion or suggestion instantly… unconcerned about whom he may be contradicting or even offending.”

“Why is it just not that simple for me?”

HSPs like me are more inclined to sit and mull over their thoughts first until they break them down and categorize them so much that they may not even make sense to the average person…

That right there, is our analytical mind; something that a lot of people have, ESPECIALLY HSPs. It is most definitely an asset, but sometimes I think we can get lost in the woodwork of our thoughts and even talk ourselves out of speaking up, because we can see things through more than one lens.

Over the past couple of weeks, I have learned a few things about decision making as it relates to me, an HSP, and I hope that all my lovely readers will be able to get something from this too. 🙂

  • Usually the points that I think of are good, but are often not the “obvious point” that someone would make. If I don’t feel the time is exactly right to say something, then that’s ok. I will store my thoughts away for another time, or to help inform another topic down the road (I am learning that it shouldn’t be a race or a competition to speak up as much as possible in these meetings).
  • Once I formulate my opinion, even though I have thought of the “counter argument” maybe even before others have, I still need to stick to my opinion. In the past I have voluntarily stated the counter argument to my own opinion! But that, for obvious reasons, can be self-sabotaging.
  • Sometimes sitting back and observing everything, even for 3 full days – like I did during these business meetings – can be the best thing. I absorbed so much (I know that this is second nature for many HSPs, but for me personally in the past I have tried to fight this tendency to make sure I feel heard and valued).

Finally, during a wrap-up discussion at the end of the week, I was ready to share my thoughts; the decision I had made on what the most important thing that myself and my team could do moving forward.

It was a hit!

My boss and a few others came up to me afterward acknowledging my comments, and elaborating on the thoughts I stated by contributing some of their own. Because I hadn’t spoken much throughout the week, I think people were even a little stunned with my insight.

So HSPs, and non-HSPs (because this can totally apply to you as well!) I would like to encourage you to take your time and observe.

I think a lot of times HSPs may be a little self-conscious or too hard on themselves for being quieter in groups. We may beat ourselves up for appearing “shy.”

But you know what? That’s how we are wired!! We have evolved this way for a reason… to add dynamic –  to observe, TO be different. These are good things.

So instead of fighting your trait in collaborative situations, let it guide you.

You have A LOT of SMART things to say. And you will say them, when the time is right. Being the quiet observer in the back IS a good thing. When you do speak, it will be strong.

Thanks so much for reading this week, and for letting me share with you some of my personal findings as I, like you, continue to develop as an HSP. Of course, through this process, my intention is to help you as well. ❤

I invite you to share some of your stories about decision making. Is it hard for you? What are some of the best decisions you have made? Can you attribute them to being an HSP?

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With love and compassion & until next time,

XO your fellow HSP, Chelsie.

Highly Sensitive Famous People: There are more than you think!

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I have been thinking about this topic for a while, and ironically I came across a couple of great articles the other day that highlighted some highly sensitive famous people! Reading these inspired me to share my take on the topic. 🙂

In an article written by Jim Hallowes, the founder of http://www.highlysensitivepeople.com, these famous leaders and revolutionists are noted as having highly sensitive characteristics; take a look at some of these names!

Abraham Lincoln, Harry S. Truman, Martin Luther King, Jr. Malcolm X, Gandhi, Dalai Lama, Mother Theresa, Elenor Rosavelt, Princess Dianna, Sir Issac Newton, Thomas Alva Edison and Jane Goodall.

These famous leaders are admired and recognized as leading through caring for humanity, positive change movements, and self-discovery practices – all things that HSPs are naturally good at.

Famous HSP comedians include: Woody Allen, Jim Carey, Steve Martin, Mel brooks, and Johnny Carson (he was actually very quiet and shy off stage). HSPs are artistic by nature, and they have passion; I love that a lot of us are hilarious!

I also discovered some quotes by famous actors about being highly sensitive:

 “I found films to be turbulent and stressful. They have caused me an enormous amount of anxiety, because I do not have a lot of confidence. You are working, intellectually and mentally, and you are having to be with people and socialize all the time.

  • Julie Christie

“Actors like it, on the whole, but I was not born with that quality. I am very quiet and would much prefer to talk to a few people rather than a crowd.”

“I get emotional all the time. I get emotional every time I make a speech, or talk about other cast members,” she says. “Every now and again, my heart just explodes and expands.”

  • Jennifer Beals

“I was a highly sensitive child, and the last thing my parents wanted was for their child to go in and get hurt…”

“Most actors are highly sensitive people, but you have this incredible scrutiny. You have to develop a thick skin, but you can’t have a thick skin in your work.”

“So it’s that constant push-pull of going, how do I stay human and vulnerable and real, and how do I, at the same time, not let all this affect me?”

  • Nicole Kidman

“I think I was born with a great awareness of my surroundings and an awareness of other people. I know when I really connect with somebody… Sometimes that awareness is good, and sometimes I wish I wasn’t so sensitive.”

  • Scarlette Johansson

“I wouldn’t say my insecurities and shyness have lessened just because of expressing myself through acting, but what has a role in my becoming more confident is the kind of false sense of adoration you get from the business… because I was so insecure, it gives me a reason to be a little more confident.”

  • Taye Diggs

“I’ve never been a suicidal person, but there have definitely been times when I’ve thought, I’m too sensitive for this world right now; I just don’t belong here – it’s too fast and I don’t understand it.”

  • Winona Ryder

“I did not perform well socially in junior high. I was a strange girl and I was in a lot of pain because of that.

  • Claire Danes

Famous HSP singers/songwriters and performers include: Bob Dylan, John Lennon, Elton Jon, Alanis Morissette, Neil young, Jim Morison, Celine Dion, Jewel, Keith Urban, Jack Johnson, Dolly Parton, and Barbra Streisand…way back to Mozzart.

As I grow and become more aware of the HSP trait in myself and others, I find myself thinking about HSPs around the world and all of the dynamic situations that they live in.

When my mind drifts to pop culture and the film industry, I find myself fascinated as I think about how many of them must be HSPs given their deep, beautiful lyrics, energy and connection with crowds as they perform, and their dramatic display of emotions on the screen.

Imagine their lives, especially if they don’t fully understand what being an HSP means! Maybe they’re young up-and-coming stars in their teens and 20s… introverts even.

Regular life as an HSP already has its obstacles with overstimulation and the need for downtime, let alone being in demand by thousands of fans every day.

I think that famous people, more than anyone should be well educated on their HSP trait. I can’t help but think this is why some of them turn to drugs and alcohol as an escape, and as a way of coping with the world coming at them twenty-thousand miles an hour, 24/7, 7 days a week.

What about when they are bashed in a trashy mag or made fun of on twitter? HSPs would take it even HARDER than the average person…

These are the things I think about as I listen to and watch my favorite famous artists.

There is a long list of HSP writers as well:

Edgar Allen Poe, Ralph Waldo Emmerson, Emily Dickenson, Virginia Wolf, E.E. Cummings, James Baldwin, Walt Whitmen and Robert Frost, to name a few.

And I am POSITIVE that there are many more famous authors, singers, actors and leaders in the world who are HSPs.

I had a lot of fun putting together this post for you guys. I certainly can’t help but think, “Wow! look at all these wonderful, world-renowned amazing people named as HSPs… they are like me, they would get me.”

What other famous people do you think are HSPs? There must be so many who haven’t come forth about it. Share some names in a comments below, or on The Sensitive Trait’s Facebook page!

Have a lovely week everyone, thanks for having some fun with me. 🙂

XO Your Fellow HSP, Chelsie

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Article references for this post:

http://highlysensitive.org/4/actors-and-high-sensitivity/

http://www.genconnect.com/albert-einstein-nicole-kidman-jim-hallowes-list-of-famous-highly-sensitive-people/

Misunderstood

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Hello HSP community! My apologies for missing last week’s post. In it’s place I shared the following paragraph on The Sensitive Trait’s Facebook page, so I thought I would share it here as well. 🙂

“In the past week I have learned more than ever about how we can become overwhelmed by excitement, joy and love just as much as we can by stress and unpleasant, chaotic situations. From wonderful summer vacations, birthday celebrations and heartfelt conversations, to future planning for The Sensitive Trait, my introversion is pulling on me this week. You may have noticed that The Sensitive Trait missed a blog post! I gave myself permission to do that as I knew it would be too much for me.”

I will admit I struggled to decide whether or not to write a blog post last week (I can be really hard on myself, and extremely loyal and committed… to you guys, and everyone I care for in my life).

I went back and forth on the decision for a bit, but then I just gave myself the permission to skip it, and my worries went away.

Sometimes that all it takes; to be gentle with ourselves, and remember how we get as HSPs when we over commit.

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Now, on to this week’s blog post topic… “Misunderstood”

We have all felt this way in our lives, especially HSPs, probably on many occasions.

As a Child:

When you were growing up as an HSP, you may have been told that you’re “too sensitive for your own good”, or called “shy.” Maybe you were referred to as the “teacher’s pet” or “mama’s favorite” because you clung to the adults in your life for protection.

You may have experienced extreme frustration from your parents or teachers because of your uncontrollable crying bouts. Maybe you were put into situations that were much too overstimulating for you but despite your resistance, you were told to do what the other kids were doing.

As a Teenager:

Later on in your teens as an HSP, maybe you just couldn’t understand why you’d prefer to stay at home and hangout quietly in the backyard rather than go to the beach with all of your friends.

Maybe one sleepover on the weekend would be fine for you, but when your friends begged you to stay for the second night, you were torn and went home upset, with your friends (and yourself) not understanding why.

As an Adult:

Perhaps still, some of the loved ones in your life don’t understand you…

Guess what? The knowledge I am sharing with you can help! 🙂

Once we understand our trait of high sensitivity and start to acknowledge and notice it in our lives, we will better understand ourselves AND others.

We can accept and respect others for their non-HSP tendencies, and help them understand our tendencies as HSPs to create a mutual understanding.

If you’re an HSP in a romantic relationship or a friendship with a non-HSP, you’ll probably relate to some of the following examples I am going to share.

Example one:

You notice when your friend/partner’s mood changes, and then ask them if they are OK. They respond “yep, I’m good.” And change the subject.

You’re a little shocked that it can be such a simple answer… but rest assured they usually are just fine. They would probably tell you if otherwise!

Example two:

You suddenly feel overwhelmed and a little hurt by a comment your partner / friend made a few minutes ago.

You’re trying to move on from it, but it’s bothering you. Then, when they don’t notice you’re upset, you feel even worse and become resentful that they don’t notice things like you do.

HSP’s emotions can run strong, but forgive your non-HSP partner or friend. They may not pick up on little cues like you do!

You’ll have to tell them you’re upset, and it is key to do this BEFORE your emotions escalate – “nip it in the bud” right away.

This might be scary at first, but I am sure they will appreciate you telling them (before it turns into a huge deal that has been killing you for three hours). They will give you some reassurance, and apologize.

I have learned to do this and it makes the world of a difference. There’s something about just having your feelings validated and acknowledged. Once that’s done, we can dust our hands off and move on! 🙂

Example three:

Your partner might plan a whole weekend for you, but if they don’t know you’re an HSP or understand your trait, you’ll probably be totally overwhelmed by the end of the weekend.

You might cry or get angry, leaving your partner upset because he/she thinks you didn’t have a good time, when really the activities and all your happy/excited emotions were just very overwhelming for you.

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So, the title of this blog post “Misunderstood” goes for both parties – HSPs and non-HSPs alike. Neither of you are in the wrong, you just think and feel a little differently from each other.

If your partner, close friends, kids or family don’t know about your trait of high sensitivity (you may just be discovering it as well!) start by observing your relationships with your HSP trait in mind.

I bet you’ll begin to notice something … for the first time in your life you may see  yourself and others in a different, more accepting way.

This post was actually inspired by a conversation I had with an HSP friend of mine. She told me that now that she knows she’s an HSP and understands what that means, she is just so much happier and more accepting of others in her life!

To me that is true, positive progress and I am SO proud of her.

It also resembles the mission I am on to “Help HSPs understand their trait of high sensitivity in themselves and in others so they can live improved lives.”

Until next week…

XO your fellow HSP, Chelsie.

PS – of course you know this already, but ANYTIME you feel compelled to reach out to me in a public or private message, I am here. No strings attached.

 

HSPs in the workplace, Part 2: Maintaining a work environment that suits your needs

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If you had the choice to work in a modern downtown Toronto office with open-concept working stations, computer screens everywhere you look, and the constant buzz of elevator bells and clicking heels…

OR

A quiet backyard terrace with flowers in bloom and birds chirping, and a lot of time to work quietly on projects without any interruptions…

What would you choose?

There may not be a black and white answer for HSPs. As I’ve mentioned in past posts, 30% of HSPs are actually extroverts, so the first office setting may sound exciting to them.

But, after three days in a row of constant stimulation with no relief, any HSP (introvert or extrovert) would find themselves feeling exhausted and overwhelmed.

Ok, pause and dream with me for a minute here…

What if you could have a job set up perfectly to suit your own individual HSP needs?!

I am an HSP with both introverted and extroverted qualities i.e.: alone, quiet time definitely recharges me, but after so much of this down time, I seek high-energy and engaging social situations.

My perfect balance at work would be two days of the Toronto office setting, and three days of the garden terrace office setting per week.

What would your perfect balance be?

Some of us have been lucky enough to have a career that reflects the balance we need, while others have had to buckle down and make money no matter what the environment. Well, there is still time, and it is never to late to make a change!

This week I encourage you to think about your work setting in a way that you maybe haven’t before….is there anything you could change to make it more suitable to your HSP needs?

Is there clutter around your workspace? Are you by a window? Do you have a place you can focus quietly? Are there any constant sounds that are bothering you?

HSPs pick up on subtitles in their environment, and whether or not they are aware of it, they can be tremendously affected by them both positively and negatively.

There may even be the smallest change or request you can make so you feel calmer and more focused at work, and therefore less overwhelmed by the end of the day!

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In the second half of this post, I’d like to share some of the types of jobs and work situations that are well-suited for HSPs, and other situations we may want to avoid.

Chances are that if you have been aware of your high sensitivity for quite some time, you may have already chosen a career that suits your needs and talents!

For those of you who find that maybe there is another job or career choice that could suit your needs better, there are always ways to modify your current situation, and it doesn’t mean outright quitting your job. 🙂

Career paths that are well-suited for HSPs provided they take place in a positive, healthy and conducive work environment:

  • Entrepreneurial: Self-owned business or practice (working from home and/or on your own hours can be a dream for an HSP)
  • Health-related careers: Medical Records Technician, Alternative Medicine/Holistic Medicine Practitioner, Naturopath, Pharmacist, Massage Therapist, Ergonomic Consultant, Speech Pathologist
  • Care-taking careers: Nurse, Childcare, Elderly care, Teacher
  • Animal-related careers:Veterinarian, Dog Sitter/Walker, Zoologist, Dog Trainer, Groomer
  • Nature-related careers: Biologist, Ecologist, Botanist
  • Technology careers: Graphic Designer, Social Media Manager, Programmer, Software Developer, Healthcare Systems Analyst
  • Artistic careers: Artist, Actor, Musician, Music/Art Tutor, Interior designer, Fashion Designer
  • Writing-related careers: Writer, Technical Writer, Editor, Proofreader, Blogger
  • Financial careers: Accountant, Financial Analyst, Controller, Purchaser, Market Researcher
  • Trades: Carpenter, Electrician, Plumber, Gardener, Construction
  • Career/Life Coach
  • Psychologist/Counselor
  • Marketing/Communications
  • Non-profit/charity work
  • Criminologist
  • Travel agent (especially for extroverted HSPs)
  • Court Reporter
  • Researcher
  • Farmer
  • Antiques Appraiser
  • Librarian/Archivist
  • Housekeeper
  • Janitor
  • Mailman/Mailwoman
  • Truck Driver
  • Clergy member

Career paths that HSPs may want to avoid:

  • Primarily sales-focused careers
  • Jobs that include a lot of confrontation
  • Job that requires dealing with people non-stop
  • Strictly measured / timed / controlled positions
  • Roles that require us to be cutthroat or competitive
  • Jobs that take place in a loud, hectic environment
  • Roles that are comprised of ongoing, monotonous work, rather than discernible projects
  • Jobs that are only about making money (and don’t reflect your principles and interests)
  • Jobs that require you to work a lot of overtime
  • Jobs that don’t support a cause or purpose that is meaningful to you

I hope some of these points have helped! It makes sense that HSPs would excel in career paths that require passion, analytical thinking, empathy and communication because of how we are wired.

That being said, no matter what career we are in, HSPs need more alone and downtime than non-HSPs. I suggest finding time daily to relax and re-charge so your over stimulation doesn’t pile up and explode. Refer to my post “Self-care and refueling for the HSP” for some tips on managing this. 🙂

Are there any careers that you think I have missed on these lists? If so, let me know by commenting or sending me a private message.

Have a great week everyone.

XO your fellow HSP, Chelsie

HSPs in the workplace, Part 1: How we both thrive and struggle

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Careers can be extremely exciting for HSPs, but also difficult if our environment isn’t set up to support our highly sensitive personality.

I know that I can be very excited and motivated at work, but after bouts of engagement during meetings, tradeshows, and chatter around the office I feel exhausted.

Some days I just wish I could be invisible at my desk because I feel pulled in so many directions. This stresses me out, and I become frustrated and start to feel defeated.

Thankfully there is a reason for this, and it is because I am an HSP. Now that I understand the trait and how it affects me, What I used to call my “weird antisocial days” I now call my “HSP in need days.” I understand that my body is telling me “Chelsie, you need some time to re-charge and process the last couple of days. I need your empathy; we can’t afford to spend it on others right now.”

Before I knew about the highly sensitive trait, this was really tough to understand and accept about myself.

Unfortunately, the reality is that work places today aren’t usually designed to meet HSP’s needs… BUT we can do our best to moderate them, or look for new career paths that provide an environment better suited for us.

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5 ways HSPs thrive in a work setting:

  1. We are excellent team players. We have the gift of empathy; we’re very good at hearing out everyone’s suggestions and point of view. We’re courteous of other’s feelings, and good at making individuals feel heard, valued and accepted. HSPs can often read between the lines of conversations, allowing them to easily summarize the outcome of group discussions.
  1. We are creative. We leverage our creativity to think outside of the box, and come up with creative solutions to problems. When there is conflict, HSPs will be the first to offer a creative solution that benefits everyone.
  1. We pick up on subtleties that others miss. I read a great story in Ted Zeff’s book: “HSP Success Stories,” about an HSP nurse who noticed that her patient who was recovering from surgery just seemed off. She couldn’t put her finger on what it was and when she told the doctors, they brushed it off. That evening the patient was rushed to ICU because a large blood clot was detected in his leg. Had the nurse not stayed late because she was worried, the patient may have passed away.
  1. We assess every outcome before acting. Whether it is a PR scenario, a difficult customer, or an important judgement call, HSPs have a natural “pause to check” instinct, making them more cautious than non-HSPs. When faced with a decision to make at work, they will run every possible outcome through their head first, before choosing the best approach.
  1. We are hard workers. Oh yes, we take pride in our work and have a hard time saying “well, it’s good enough.” Our projects are immaculate and thorough, and we tend to go above and beyond.

5 ways HSPs struggle in a work setting:

  1. We often fail when performing tasks in front of others. This point is actually a question in Elaine Aron’s HSP-self test. If we are asked to perform a task while others monitor us we can become very nervous and forgetful. Usually we are actually really good at the task when doing it on our own, but the pressure of others watching and analyzing can be paralyzing for an HSP.
  1. We avoid conflict. HSPs can be made very uncomfortable when faced with conflict. We are afraid of the repercussions if we speak up, and we don’t like being involved in disagreements or arguments. This causes us to be passive in areas and we miss out on sharing our point of view. Additionally, when an HSP doesn’t address an issue to avoid conflict, it can negatively impact the workplace.
  1. We can’t concentrate in noisy environments. HSPs prefer a quiet, calm place to work. Anything from chatter around their work area and bright neon lights to the sounds of machinery and sudden noises can really distract and agitate an HSP.
  1. We tend to doubt our abilities. We often worry that we’re not doing a good enough job, and we under credit our achievements. This can stall our career advancement and development. If we don’t show self-assurance in our abilities, others may doubt us too.
  1. We take criticism too personally. If we receive constructive criticism, it can take us a while to process the blow, and re-gain confidence. We may get upset at ourselves for not being better in the criticized area, instead of accepting that it is normal to have strengths and weaknesses. We tend to highlight our “flaw” in our own minds and let it take credit away from the areas we excel in.

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In writing this post, I realize that HSPs in the workplace is a really big topic! I will save the second half for next week 😉

In Part 2 I will get into career choices and opportunities that are best suited for HSPs, and outline some that we may want to avoid.

Remember, you are AMAZING, and your trait of high sensitivity is so valued and totally needed in the workplace! You bring so much value to the table!!

I hope that this post has helped you identify your strengths in the workplace, as well as some areas you’d like to work on. The points I made are just a start… and some of them may or may not be relevant for you. Or maybe I whacked the nail on the head with just one or two points!

What have you noticed about yourself at work?

I invite you to share your workplace attributes and setbacks on The Sensitive Trait Facebook page, or in a comment below!

Include one of these Hashtags in your story: #HSPWorkWin or #HSPWorkFail. We can all learn from each other!!

Looking forward to hearing from all of you beautiful people.

XO your fellow HSP, Chelsie